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Turning Dead Ends Into Doorways – And a Giveaway!

 

 

When I first met Staci Boden, I knew right away I’d met a new soul-sister. Then, when I read her first book, “Turning Dead Ends into Doorways: How to Grow Through Whatever Life Throws Your Way,” I knew I’d met a wise old soul and teacher as well.

The book not only outlines for us, the readers, a powerful and enlightened approach to dealing with life’s most difficult challenges, it also takes you on a journey of what must have been one of Staci’s most painful personal trials.

I’m not going to spoil to story for you but suffice it to say, she was forced to put into practice her teachings even while she was writing the book.

Her book has enriched my life and transformed the way I will approach difficult times and I know it will do the same for you.

So, we’ll be giving away one hard-cover copy of “Turning Dead Ends Into Doorways.” Just leave a comment below and next Thursday, I’ll select one person at random. If you’re the winner, you’ll get an email from me saying “YAY” and asking for your snail-mail addy. Good luck and enjoy!

Now, let’s hear what Staci has to say about her ground-breaking project, shall we? K.

 

How do you define healing? How can letting go of control be a way to heal?

So often our Western culture emphasizes success as achieving a positive outcome. I’m all for positive outcomes but I’ve found that when it comes to healing, if we can’t control our reality we often feel like we’re doing something wrong. If we can let go of holding onto to a specific outcome with a death grip, we can access healing in many ways. Healing becomes a journey as well as a destination. For example, we may or may not get a certain job but by cultivating awareness as we go through the process, we can develop patience, perseverance, or even a better sense of humor. When the stakes are high around health, finances, fertility or relationships, daily life becomes a spiritual training ground to discover meaning and transform.

 

What does it mean to grow a conscious relationship with the unknown in daily life?

The truth is, we can never predict what’s around the next corner. We may not know small things, like what’s for dinner, or big things, like if we will meet a soul mate or remain healthy. The unknown is a tangible yet mysterious force that permeates daily life. The challenge is that relying on control to deal with the unknown doesn’t always work, and often, control ends up controlling us. If instead, we start developing a more conscious relationship within ourselves and with whatever part of everyday living is calling for our attention—health, finances, relationships, fertility—we can learn how to navigate the unknown in daily life in a more balanced and empowered way.

 

Who is Turning Dead Ends Into Doorways written for?

My book meets people where they are to help them navigate change and transform their lives. You may be feeling stuck or overwhelmed. Perhaps you realize it’s time to change but don’t know how. Or perhaps you’re hungry to develop awareness and purely positive thinking doesn’t ring true. You may also be in the middle of a severe life crisis, feeling raw and vulnerable inside some unimaginable unknown where the only way out is through. Turning Dead Ends into Doorways is a guide for learning how to feel your way through the dark from wherever you are. In the process, you develop your own inroads and pathways of healing so you can carry yourself through anything.

 

Your book introduces eight teachers for navigating the unknown in daily life–fear, awareness, choice, body, intuition, energy, intention and surrender. Why eight and why call them “teachers”?

The eight teachers emerged through fifteen years of being a healing practitioner. Learning how to navigate the unknown can seem rather amorphous and I began to notice individuals and groups grappling with core issues around fear, awareness, body etc. As I sat with how a reader might learn to navigate the unknown in a book, core issues coalesced into universal teachers. Anything can be a teacher in our lives, and certainly, these eight aren’t meant to be definitive. They are relationships that I felt called to write about first.

 

What inspired you to write Turning Dead End Into Doorways?

Growing up with a legally blind mother, chronically ill family members and friends who experienced sexual abuse made me aware of healing, and how sometimes we unconsciously convey blaming messages. As I developed my healing practice, it became important to create a safe place where everyone could access healing, whether they achieved a specific outcome or not. The intention of Turning Dead Ends into Doorways is to be a resource for people to develop their own unique healing ways, so they can grow self-reliance through any circumstance. It’s also an opportunity to shine a light on inspiring people and mentors who embody a different relationship with life.

 

What sets Turning Dead Ends Into Doorways apart from other self-help books?

Rather than issuing false promises for happy outcomes, Turning Dead Ends into Doorways invites readers to activate another kind of self-help. Not the kind of self-help that offers 35 days to discover a perfect you who will attract the best lover who already owns your dream house (outright). Instead, after choosing an intention to study throughout the book, you connect with each chapter teacher to engage the unknown of who you are. As you interact with client stories, exercises and personal reflection, most likely life will begin to surprise you with lessons strangely designed to facilitate just what you need to learn. Change can start to happen. Healing expands to include accepting loss alongside a positive outcome sprinkled with a soul restoring aha moment of meaning. These experiences then unite to create a new foundation of capacity for wholeness that can emanate from you out into the world.

 

If you had to choose one thing for people to learn from your book, what would that be?

My vote would be for people to learn how to get behind, hold, follow and navigate energy through developing conscious relationship in their life (okay four things, but one process). This is easier said than done because being in control by getting ahead is our cultural ideal. Learning to pull your attention back in order to follow something–a relationship, a project or even a wish–cannot be done through the mind alone. Navigating energy is an experiential practice. That’s why I encourage readers to focus on an intention throughout the book, so they can practice learning how to navigate energy. Regardless of what I hope people learn, my commitment is to get behind each readers’ intention so they facilitate their own healing, whatever that looks like for them.

 

You refer to your healing work as Practical Spirituality, what does Practical Spirituality mean to you?

My training arises from earth-based and women’s spirituality traditions but as I sat across from clients unfamiliar with that world, we needed to find another way to communicate. Practical Spirituality is an approach to life that bridges earth-based, women’s spiritual and Western ways to help people navigate daily unknowns and discover meaning. Practical Spirituality embraces the mystical with pragmatic arms. If we can’t embody peace while negotiating traffic, then we’re truly stuck. Beyond a specific form, Practical Spirituality helps people develop their own healing ways that they can access through daily living.

 

You wrote Turning Dead Ends Into Doorways in real time asking the eight teachers to inform the book through daily life happenings. Why? How was that?

For me, conscious living means inviting a conversation with the unknown in the context of daily life. Because I pay close attention to synchronicity–meaningful events–to help me navigate everyday living, I would naturally notice synchronicity while writing a book as well. Also, since I ask readers to let go of control and engage the unknown, it seemed only fair to join them through writing the book. Within that, I was unprepared for what arrived with each chapter teacher in beautiful and shattering ways. An earthquake punctuated a point, birth made a surprise re-entrance into my life and in the last month of writing, my teenage daughter was diagnosed with a rare form of adolescent cancer. I don’t know if noticing synchronicity while writing the book helped my daughter’s cancer come to light, but if so, I’m very grateful. Thankfully, my daughter has been in remission for over a year now.

 

How has writing the book helped you grow in daily life?

I had no idea that in writing the book partially as a love letter to those surrounded by challenging unknowns, I would end up there myself. I also didn’t realize that the level of relationship I grew with fear, awareness, choice, body, intuition, energy, intention and surrender while writing would become a lifeline of support to navigate my daughter’s healing, but I am eternally grateful. While it’s always been my intention to be of service, the converging points of the book and my daughter’s health has lit a fire in my belly about supporting people in crisis. While I understand from experience that self-care is difficult during trying times, if one paragraph, one page, one teacher from the book can help someone in dire need feel less alone, I will be content.

 

About Staci Boden

Staci Boden is a San Francisco-based writer, healing practitioner, and energy worker. As a feisty teenager, Staci didn’t buy the you-can-create-your-own reality interpretation of how her legally blind mother should heal her eyes. Instead, she has developed a Practical Spirituality® approach to cultivating balance within the unpredictability of life. Her book, Turning Dead Ends into Doorways: How to Grow Through Whatever Life Throws Your Way (Conari Press, 2012), introduces eight teachers for moving beyond control to navigate daily life unknowns: fear, awareness, choice, body, intuition, energy, intention and surrender. Through her company, Dancing-Tree Consulting, Staci sees private clients as well as leads personal and spiritual development workshops in energy work, sacred dance, breathwork, and guided visualization.

 

UPDATE: Lynn Hess is the lucky winner!

25 comments
bookbirdlives
bookbirdlives like.author.displayName like.author.displayName 2 Like

It's so exciting that so many people are starting to write about this stuff. This book looks like a fascinating read to me!

DeannaLohnes1
DeannaLohnes1

This sounds like a must-read. As a certified self-help junkie, it's refreshing to see someone who isn't promising unicorns and rainbows in just 35 days.

 

I'm crushing on the idea of practical spirituality. It sounds like exactly what I'm looking to build in my latest project. I'm thrilled to have a new way to talk about it.

StaciBoden
StaciBoden

 @DeannaLohnes1 Hi Deanna, while I'm not into making those big promises, I have found that when we really let go, magic can happen, it just often doesn't show up in a prescribed way. It really is amazing what shows up when we learn how to get out of our own way and follow something bigger than ourselves, like a new project. Good luck!

JennyBBones
JennyBBones moderator

 @DeannaLohnes1 hahaha...no, no unicorns or rainbows here. Staci's the real deal in my opinion. You'll love her, Deanna!

glennen1
glennen1 like.author.displayName 1 Like

Sounds like a really good and needed read! Thanks for doing a giveaway!

JennyBBones
JennyBBones moderator

 @glennen1 It's my pleasure! This is a message that is an honor to share :)

florabrown
florabrown

Hi Jenny,

 

Thank you for sharing Staci's book with us. It resonates with me because I discovered when I was writing my book on happiness that I was called upon to use the very tips and lessons I was sharing with others. In addition to sharing what I had experienced and learned in the past, I was thrust on a new journey of learning lessons from the unknown I encountered in my daily life. (Once again it showed that we teach what we need to learn.)

 

Staci, I love your book title, its message and your approach to healing.  Whether I win the free copy or not, I will get this book and eagerly greet each teacher. I also expect to share highlights on my blog and newsletter.

StaciBoden
StaciBoden

 @florabrown Thanks, Flora! And while I've been studying these eight teachers for many years, of course writing a book deepens relationship. I'm very very grateful for how the book grew me to another level because it made me a better mother, imho.

 

I really enjoy collaboration, so if there is anything you want to discuss regarding writing or your blog, please feel free to connect with me directly!

JennyBBones
JennyBBones moderator

 @florabrown Hi Flora! And yes, Staci had the same experience and I think it only adds to the real power behind her message. "If I can get through this and transform the experience into real spiritual growth, we can all get through anything and do the same." So inspiring.

RandiS
RandiS like.author.displayName 1 Like

Great interview! The book sounds like a must read. Loved the idea of the 8 teachers.

JennyBBones
JennyBBones moderator like.author.displayName 1 Like

 @RandiS Totally a must read, Randi. Nice to see ya~!

tsilvestre
tsilvestre

Loved this: "If we can’t embody peace while negotiating traffic, then we’re truly stuck." It's so true. And usually I'm good with traffic. But lately (stress? hormones? both?) I've noticed myself being short-tempered with total strangers about things that don't really matter. And yes -- I've got some high stakes projects out there right now that I need to be easier with. As an admitted control freak, it can be hard to say, "It's okay if this thing I'm working on doesn't fly." I just really don't want to go there.

StaciBoden
StaciBoden

 @tsilvestreHello Bay Area woman!!!! And as a recovering type A personality, I hear you. I'm not suggesting we give up goals or intentions, just learn to hold them a little more loosely so we can actually expand the conversation. The challenge with control, is that it just doesn't work all the time, and it often limits possibility. i wish you all the best with your projects, and I hope you'll play with how you might start to follow the energy of projects, it's a wild ride, fun, and can generate some amazing adventures.

JennyBBones
JennyBBones moderator

 @tsilvestre We must be following the same planetary alignment right now, Tea. You're not alone sister :)

tsilvestre
tsilvestre

p.s. - I live in San Jose and would love to meet another Bay Area wise woman. *waves hello to Staci*

stephmarks
stephmarks

This sounds like a must-have book for where I am in my life right now. I love the 8-teachers approach.

StaciBoden
StaciBoden

 @stephmarks Thanks, the 8 teachers arrived after years of working with people, and they've been foundational for me.

JennyBBones
JennyBBones moderator

 @stephmarks I did too! The 8 teachers really clarifies and simplifies things for me...I like things broken down into bite sized pieces lol...or maybe I'm just hungry ;)

LynnHess
LynnHess

Wow!  I was not familiar with Staci, but this one sounds like a must-read.  I'm really curious about her thoughts on navigating energy, and Practical Spirituality is totally right up my alley. LOVED the comment about embracing the mystical with pragmatic arms -- so well said!

StaciBoden
StaciBoden

 @LynnHess Hi Lynn, yes, navigating energy, learning how to follow energy is the heart of the book in many ways. In my world, following energy means staying behind it. That's quite a shift because we're taught that making things happen means success. For me, integrating the mystical into daily life is what it's all about. Have a great day!

JennyBBones
JennyBBones moderator

 @LynnHess It really is a must-read. The whole book is filled with yummy bits of wisdom like that :)

Carol Hess
Carol Hess

I've just started reading Turning Deadends into Doorways, and I'm shouting yes, yes, yes as I turn the pages.  I've highlighted so much of what I've read so far, that I might as well just highlight the whole darned book.  I can already tell that this is one of those books that can change your life.

StaciBoden
StaciBoden

 @Carol Hess Hi Carol! When Jenny first started reading the book, she said she was nodding so much her neck was hurting, LOL!!!! And as for a change your life book, wow, I've got to breathe that one in, thank you. I just hope (and intend!) that the book can be of service. Big cyber hug to you!!!!

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