Today we talk about doing away with your business’ competition…once and for all! Click below to listen (6 minutes, on the dot baby!):
And please leave a comment below to share your thoughts on today’s topic.
For me, competition comes out of the worldview the other person is a rival. From an early age, many schooling systems engender this vision through giving marks and having us compare ourselves with each other as rivals. Later, competition is presented as something absolutely necessary to economic security and development. So we get recruited into this idea, swallow it whole and end up giving ourselves marks, comparing with others, beating ourselves down, trying to get to the top, becoming our own best slave as you so chillingly put it Jenny.
The chaotic times we live in is an opportunity to step out of a world view based on rivalry into one based on co-operation. Sometimes the step is short and sweet, sometimes it is long bumpy ride through the night. But whatever route you take, walking in the woods may one of the best business decisions you'll ever make. For my part, I'm off to the park to catch some beautiful air.
Thank you for sharing this.
peace to you all,
Malachy I couldn't agree more about that walk in the woods (or park :) It's true, we are filled with so many stories about how well, or not, we measure up against others. It's actually astounding that we're all not way more neurotic than we are! I'll never forget the first time I was confronted with the truth that while I worried about what everyone else was thinking about me, they were simultaneously worried about what I thought of them. Then *POOF* all my ego's worry was replaced with my heart's compassion for the suffering we inflict upon ourselves in the name of "measuring up." In that moment I found such freedom. Now...to just hold onto it...
Jenny, Good to listen to the competition talk again. I am gradually letting go of the idea that if I share "my Stuff" with others they will take it and I will be left out in the cold. We can both use what I know for many reasons: our perfect people are not the same, we could use it to work together and share what we know. There is plenty to go around. Thanks again.
Joanna Saunders It's not always easy and I've had to remind myself recently in two unrelated instances. First, someone took the name of my site and wrote a book titled the same *grar* and second, someone ran a summer camp program eerily similar to ours...s'mores and all *grar again*But each time I took a step back and tried to see it as a compliment. The fact that people are familiar with what I'm doing and want to emulate it...well, it's hard to be angry after that! Plus, you nailed it...there's plenty to go around and nobody can do what we do like we do it. YAY!
JennyBBones Joanna Saunders No, those people should be killed. You should kill those people.
Peter Crowell Joanna Saunders LMAO!!! Oh I needed that snorting laugh, Peter. Thank you.
You are a genius. This is exactly the message I needed to hear today.
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Love and blessings,
florabrown2u Oh Flora, that's so wonderful to hear! That you got what you needed today makes everything worthwhile. Thank YOU!
I feel oh so much better about giving myself most of this day off. Thanks, Jenny. I have fallen into the trap of work, work, work and being an awful boss to myself. It sucks the joy right out of life and out of the business. that's no way to work or live.
And I've fallen into the "it's me against my competition" trap and that awful feeling of alone. A prime example of the scarcity and fear mindset. I don't want to think that way or feel that way about my colleagues. I LOVE the idea of collaborators. There's power in community and partnership. Loving, loving the podcasts, Jenny.
Carol Hess YAY for taking (most of) the day off~~! I know how hard you've been working ;) and you deserved and needed a break. Thank you so much, Carol!
I love this Jenny! I've experienced the burn out of doing too much and am now working on chilling out :)
A huge aman on the competition talk. I have struggled with the competition piece in my life because I don't have a competitive-with-others bone in my body -- never been interested. I believe with my whole heart that there is plenty of room for us all and that when we share our truth, we make the right connections. People see bright and bold work.
I've been reflecting on collaboration...I haven't been lucky in this area, though I do reach out some -- trying to get better at that. Part of it is introversion and work style -- I have a rich life in my head, I've challenged myself to share that more :) I also think that when some people have been around for a while, they gravitate toward each other and newcomers want to be a part of that group so the island feeling persists as you search for someone to play with... I'm not sure what to think/do about it to be honest. It's all good though. I've been on a journey -- you know that. I've decided love, my truth and inner peace first, I'll see what comes from that.
JenPriceDavis1 Thank you, Jen! It's not always easy to find great collaborators but, when you do, it's so magical. I say just go out there and do it. Connect with people as much as possible on social media. Try some small projects first, and see how it goes. I've had some really amazing collaborations (like my current one with Sandi Faviell Amorim ) and some not so great ones. But I learned something new about myself and my biz each time. I know you've been on a journey, and it's such an honor to be traveling it with you, sister.
Competition is a form of escapism. When you're in competition with others, you don't need to do your inner work. When the achievements of others are your yardstick, you don't need to fully explore your own potential. In a world where everyone is developing their full selves, the energies of competition would show up as response, dialogue, relationship, and shared exploration of the unknown.
Peter Crowell Ahhh~! I love that angle on the issue, Peter. It's so true. Thankfully, I think we're quickly approaching a world where everyone is developing their full selves, don't you?
JennyBBones Yes, I do. It can't happen fast enough as far as I'm concerned. I do currently live with an abiding sense of imminent transformation, like possibility itself is evolving.