Friday Round-Up: Creating an Impact is Not a Solo Venture

[message type=”custom” width=”50%” align=”center” start_color=”#fffff7″ end_color=”#B5EDFF” border=”#999999″ color=”#333333″]Each Friday I’ll post a round-up of a few of my favorite posts, blogs and offers for the week. As a first “Friday Round-Up” I thought it appropriate to start with those I am most grateful for. This is a list of pure awesomeness. This list can change the course of your business. Use it wisely.[/message]

Few successes are of the solo variety and the launch of this site is certainly no exception. I was lucky enough to receive the generous help of some very special people, people who I really think you’re going to want to meet.


Lisa Valuyskaya from IdeaStylist

Lisa’s work has been an integral part of the entire launch. From branding to site design to ebook layout, she has worked tirelessly to provide a cohesive visual experience that reflects perfectly the message I sought to convey. Lisa, I couldn’t have done this without you!


Ryah Albatros from InformationJunkiesAnonymous

Without Ryah’s support, advice and assistance I don’t think the launch would have been anywhere near on-schedule. Ryah has an uncanny ability to sort through all the muck and simplify the task at hand, making things feel much more manageable. It’s a gift I’ve utilized over and over again and am so very grateful for. Thank you, sister!


Catherine Caine from CashandJoy

Catherine put a wager out there a couple months ago…and I took her up on it. And here we are today. In working with her I was able to gain an incredible amount of clarity on what I wanted to create for you here. I think the result is pretty friggin’ awesome, don’t you? Such win!


Bridget Pilloud from BridgetPilloud

While she probably has absolutely no idea, her daily Soul Notes have kept me grounded throughout this (sometimes stressful) process. Some days, usually the toughest ones, it would seem the Soul Notes had been written just for me. I highly recommend signing up for this free slice of awesome. Thank you Bridget, and your Inner Me too!


Michael Martine from Remarkablogger

Michael’s encouragement, words of wisdom and magical beard (which has an odd habit of disappearing) have made this journey not only easier but so much more fun. If you want to make a genuine impact with your blog, his site is one you don’t want to miss. Thank you, Gandalf…I mean Michael!


LaVonne Ellis from MakeCustomersLoveYou

If you’re one of my perfect people there’s a good chance you already know LaVonne. If you haven’t met her yet I’m very proud to introduce you. Her commitment to providing a community of supportive, caring and creative solopreneurs through her Customer Love Challenges has enriched the lives of everyone who participates. Tweet up with this awesomesaucetastic group at #customerlove.


The Dream Factory

My mastermind group has got to be the best one around. I’ll accept no evidence to the contrary. Without the weekly support of, and accountability to, these lovely ladies I’m not sure where I would have found the strength and resolve to get this shit done in the short time I allowed myself. A very special thanks to Susan T. Blake, Tisha Berg and Mary Havlicek for everything you are, everything you give and everything you’ve yet to create. Working together with these three amazing women is an incredible gift…and one I get to indulge in EVERY WEEK! Yeah, I’m pretty blessed.


Mark J. Pugliese from MarkJPugliese

His behind-the-scenes support and editorial eye have been paramount to this launch’s success. Always willing to drop everything to help extinguish yet another anxiety fire (yes, we ALL have them sometimes), Mark stood by me throughout this process with infinite patience and encouragement.


Last but certainly not least, thank YOU!

You are here, reading this right now, and that not only makes me incredibly happy…it’s the one-and-only reason this site was created. It’s why all these people worked so diligently to help me build it, including those who didn’t even know they were helping at the time. It was all for you all along!


Thank you for being my inspiration. Thank you for being my strength. Thank you for being exactly who you be, right here in this very moment.


The Words Who Would Not Be Laughed At

Comic legend Lenny Bruce was arrested no less than four times for using The Words on stage. He was harassed for years, followed by police wherever he performed and in 1964 was finally convicted of “obscenity,” narrowly escaping his four month sentence by dying before it could be carried out. Wiley criminal.

George Carlin catapulted his career by injecting the shock value of The Words into his act. In the early 1970s, pre-adolescent children all over the country would huddle around their record players with the volume turned way down and their parents’ swiped copy of Class Clown, giggling like demons as Carlin spouted off the 7 Words You Can Never Say on Television:

cocksucker, cunt, fuck, motherfucker, piss, shit, tits

These words did not liked to be laughed at back then. They represented something(s) which terrified people. They elicited such intense emotional responses people could be sentenced to prison just for uttering them aloud.

Words have power. And while today we might find those reactions of the authorities 50 years ago to be downright silly, these stories illustrate the magnitude of that power.

Consider words which represent actions or principles leading to the lowest expression of human behavior, violence:

war, hate, greed, intolerance, god

And others which represent actions or principles of the highest expression of human behavior, enlightenment:

peace, compassion, charity, service, god

God is perhaps the single most interesting word in the English language for the sheer power it conjures in people’s consciousness. It becomes even more interesting when we look at its Indo-European root ghut meaning “that which is invoked.”

Whether invoking violence and intolerance or peace and enlightenment, the word god appears far more powerful and potentially threatening to the fabric of any society than cocksucker, cunt, fuck, motherfucker, piss, shit or tits could ever hope to be. Clearly this word is to be feared above all others.

Until we take the time to understand the word.

Invoke implies we are active participants in the creation or existence of god. Realize the magic here which has been so sorely lost over time: by definition, we get to choose what god is to us in our own lives. We can decide to call into being a god who is specifically aligned with our individual values and spiritual needs.

I wonder how much the subtle addition of invocation to the way in which we define god would alleviate the My God is Better Than Your God epidemic plaguing mankind for so long.

Using this logic, if you’ll join me, I invite you to begin to uncover which words have a deep impact on you…which words do you feel in your gut? your throat? your heart? your loins? (Yes, I said loins.) What are those feelings like? tingly? choking? nauseous? heavy? light?

Then begin to tear those words down, peel away their layers and get to a more intimate level with them.

In doing this we begin to not only gain a deeper understanding of words, we also learn to respect them more and use them more carefully…or carelessly, whichever the situation requires.

Wanna play? Leave a word which holds strong feelings for you in the comments section and we’ll see what we can come up with together.

Modesty is a River in Egypt

A friend recently tweeted:


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Brilliant, said I. Then I gave it some thought…

Modesty is not ignorance at all, really. We might claim ignorance for the sake of modesty but it’s just a lie.

Modesty is denial.

You actually do know how wonderful you are, I don’t care what evidence to the contrary exists.

Despite what the egoic voices in your head may be babbling about, a part of you also knows you are perfect, whole and complete exactly as you are in this very moment.

To deny this is to deny what is most precious: the source of all our strength, courage, love and hope.

And yet we do this all the time.

  • By allowing our fears to limit our behaviors.
  • By putting ourselves at a level below other people.
  • By putting ourselves at a level above other people.
  • By not shouting our own praises from every rafter.
  • By not sharing our joy, our dreams and our deepest desires with everyone around us.
  • By being modest.

Enough, already. Break out of your not-so-modest denial and take that first step towards admitting you have a problem.

What problem? Glad you asked:

You are exquisitely perfect just as you are. What are you going to do about it?

The Post That Started It All

Originally posted on Natural Write, January 2, 2011 this post was the jumping board for the site you are visiting now. I thought it only appropriate for this to be the 1st post published on Up Your Impact Factor πŸ™‚

Transformational Communication

importance of communication

“If I was a huntress of words

It was because I was a huntress of silence” ~Sandra Hochman

The world of online business will never be the same. Or business for that matter. Or the world.

Changes have torn through the internet faster than many of us have been able to keep up with them.

Social media has exploded into our lives and across our businesses connecting us in ways and numbers never before possible.

But what the hell are we supposed to do with all this?

I believe people are beginning to recognize the potential power we each have as individuals. In my circle, there is an unspoken reverence for this newfound power. There is a quiet-but-growing sense this newfound power might be better spent changing the world we live in than marketing widgets and business-as-usual.

Even the great dreamers, seers and thinkers of our day seem impressed and a little overwhelmed by what’s happening online right now. See?

Practically overnight, social networking has transformed the internet into a social movement that carries with it the values, hopes and change so many of us are aching for.

Importance of Communication

The word communication was born from the Latin word communis meaning “applicable to either side; impartial; same form for two cases.”

Communis is also the root for:

  • commune
  • community
  • communion

The place in our psyche which integrates all the data coming from each of our sensory organs is called the sensus communis.

We have a muscle on our back forearms which is responsible for extending the fingers and hand as one does with a handshake. This muscle was named the extensor digitorum communis.

So the word communication begins to develop a deeper meaning than we often give it credit for. It’s one of those things we tend to take for granted, like a long-time partner or spouse.

But just as with losing our partners, our lives would be forever changed if we were unable to communicate effectively. It is such an essential element of humanness that people will overcome almost any obstacle preventing them from communicating. One only need remember Helen Keller’s amazing achievements to illustrate this innate drive.

This is the real power behind what’s going on in our world today.

“For the first time in human evolution, the individual life is long enough, and the cultural transformation swift enough, that the individual mind is now a constituent player in the global transformation of human culture.” ~William Irwin Thompson

It is the power to communicate, of an individual with an entire global community, which is opening the doors for each of us to have a profound impact on the world around us.

Wait…wait…don’t tell me. YOU want to change the world too, right?

Yeah, I figured. And I want to help you. Yes, I just recently decided this. Or maybe I knew it all along but was terrified by the implications. After all, this is no small task.

Transformational Communication

Helping people get shit done online is great. So is writing copy and content that helps propel their marketing efforts. But helping people transform their businesses and change the world? Now that’s something I can really sink my teeth into.

Transformational communication is a powerful tool which I can help you uncover, develop and sharpen. Adding this tool to your arsenal of game-changing and world-dominating weaponry can give you and your business an incredible edge.

Transformational communication can:

  • Increase your own clarity of purpose
  • Draw your perfect people to you like a magnet
  • Create a voice of authority with which to lead your tribe
  • Reveal not just what you do but, more importantly, why you do it
  • Build the courage and confidence you’ll be needing if you’re really going to conquer the world

How do you know if this can help you?

It’s simple:

Do you want to build a transformational business and rock the world’s socks off but don’t feel…Qualified? Capable? Ready?

Have you been spinning your wheels in your business or blog, still not nailing down precisely what it is YOU want it to provide?

Are people finally starting to ‘get’ you, but you’d like to see things happen faster? Like…a lot faster?

Then you, my sweet darlin’, are in dire need of some transformational communication goodness.

Because believe me, you ARE qualified. You are TOTALLY capable. And you were fucking BORN ready!

Not to mention the world desperately needs what you have to offer. Time’s a’wastin’!

Let’s get this party started then, shall we? Let’s start clearing the blocks that lay in your path to success. Let’s blaze a trail straight through to the heart of what it is you want to see happen in your world.

I hope you’re as excited as I am! If you haven’t already, sign up for updates right now to be sure you don’t miss any of the exciting surprises I already have in store for you (SPOILER ALERT: they all taste like bacon)!